Teen Help

The mission of OneTear Ministry is to reach kids who are victims of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, neglect or domestic violence.... read more→

Safe Place

OneTear Ministry is a community free of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, neglect, and domestic violence.... read more→

Teen Hope

A person consists of body, mind, and spirit. When abuse happens, the whole person is affected. The body has physical damage, the mind has psychological damage, and the spirit is broken.... read more→

Child Abuse Statistics

In 2009, there were over 3 million reported cases of child abuse in the United States. The number of children who are abused each year is estimated to be at least twice this amount because so many cases of abuse are not reported.

  • A child is abused every ten seconds
  • Four children die everyday from abuse
  • 1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 18
  • 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 18
  • 90% of sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator
  • 40% of sex offenders were sexually abused as a child
  • 31% of women in prison were abused as children
  • 14% of men in prison were abused as children
  • 60% of people in drug rehab were abused or neglected as children
  • 30% of abused children will later abuse their own children
  • Abused children are 25% more likely to experience teen pregnancy
  • Abused children are 59% more likely to be arrested as a teen
  • Abused children are 28% more likely to be arrested as an adult
  • Abused children are 30% more likely to commit a violent crime
  • Children who are sexually abused are 2.5 times more likely to be an alcoholic and 3.8 times more likely to be a drug addict
  • 80% of adults who were abused as children met the diagnosis criteria for a least one psychiatric disorder
  • Every year 3.3 million kids are exposed to violent crimes against their mothers
  • 50% of men who abuse their wives also abuse their children
  • When a man abuses his wife, he is 6.51 times more likely to sexually abuse his daughters
  • Male children who witness their father abusing their mother are more likely to be an abuser in adulthood

 

                     Some Warning Signs and Symptoms of Abuse

Physical

Emotional

Behaviors

Overweight

Fearful

Drugs

Underweight

Anxious

Alcohol

Self-harm

Low self-esteem

Bullying

Frequent illness

Depressed

Promiscuous

Insufficient clothing

Withdrawn

Gang involvement

Stomachaches

Suicidal

Cutting

Dirty

Angry

Secretive

Body odor

People Pleaser

Isolates self

Headaches

Personality Disorders

Anti-social

Unexplained Injuries

PTSD

Pornography

Flinches when touched

Distant from God

Runaway

                                                                Confusion about

 sexual orientation

Attention seeker

   Definitions of Abuse

Physical Abuse - Physical acts by parents or caregivers* that cause, or could have caused physical injury to the child. This includes but is not limited to severe beatings, burns, biting, strangulation, or scalding resulting in bruises, broken bones, scars, or internal injuries.

Neglect - Failure of parents or other caregiver, for reasons not solely due to poverty, to provide the child with needed, age-appropriate care, including food, clothing, shelter, protection from harm, supervision appropriate to the child's development, hygiene, education, and medical care.

Sexual Abuse - When a person under the age of 18 is exploited for the sexual gratification of an older person*. This includes but is not limited to fondling of the child’s private parts; oral, vaginal or anal penetration by the offender; exposure of sexual parts by the offender; pornography or prostitution.

Verbal Abuse (also emtional or psychological abuse) Parental or other caregiver* acts or omissions, such as rejecting, terrorizing, berating, ignoring, or isolating a child, that cause or are likely to cause the child serious impairment of his or her physical, social, mental or emotional capacities.

Domestic Violence - Behaviors used by one person in a relationship to control another person. These behaviors include but are not limited to physical harm, put-downs or name-calling, isolation from others, intimidation, or sexual assault.

When children are exposed to domestic violence it causes them to live in fear. These children exhibit many of the same problems and behaviors caused by other types of abuse.

*Physical, Sexual, and Verbal Abuse can also happen by someone other than a parent or caregiver. It may be a coach, teacher, Scout leader/volunteer, church leader/volunteer, neighbor, relative, or any person who harms another person – including peers, classmates, friends, and dating relationships.

 

If you are being abused you should know that:

  • No one has the right to abuse you.
  • You don't deserve to be abused.
  • If you are being abused, you are a victim.
  • It's not your fault that you are being treated this way.
  • God loves you no matter what has been done to you. 
  • You are not alone. Other kids suffer abuse, too.
  • Sometimes abusers scare or threaten kids so they won't tell, this is to protect the abuser.
  • There are people who care about you and want to help you.
  • Do not be alone with anyone who hurts you, make any excuse necessary to get away
  • Listen to the little voice inside when it says that what is being done to you isn't right.
  • If you are being abused, please tell a safe person - that's someone you can trust like a teacher,  school nurse or counselor, neighbor or parent.